Prayers up for a woman who is very dear to our family...

Letter to the judge presiding over the case January 23, 2018

January 17, 2018

Dear Your Honor:

I’m writing in reference to a current case in your court regarding { }. She is the birth mother of our youngest son. We have kept in touch over the years and I can attest that she is thriving in her current situation. I have seen it. 

My parents and I hope to be at the sentencing on Tuesday to show our dedicated support for her. My husband is currently away in Asia on a ministry trip, otherwise he would be joining as well.

Tuesday morning you will decide { } future. I can appreciate your position as a judge. I hear that the "letter of the law" in { } case requires a prison sentence. I write to let you know { } has an extended support system and to ask you to please consider alternatives to prison. It would be beneficial to her well-being to remain in her current environment. 

She is currently in the home of her sister and residing as a law-abiding citizen, and desires to contribute more than simply paying taxes. She desires, to donate one of her kidneys (should she be a match) and be caregiver for { } following the transplant. Given her current support system, it is our hope that you will use your authority to offer { } a chance for continuity, healing and giving back. 

I have included more about our history with { } below.

Sincerely, 

Kimberly Creasman 

San Pedro, CA 

In the lobby of the Sacramento Court House

Here is our back story:

In December 1996 a 14 year old girl who had been raped by her half-brother had the guts to carry the resulting baby to term. Seven months into the pregnancy, she combed through the letters and photos of potential adoptive families. 

She said she felt like God told her who to choose: my family. 

She said she knew it was the right thing to do. 

She wrote the dearest letter to her newborn son. She told him how much she loved him and supplied a dozen photos and shared about her family. The social worker was amazed. She said, "Rarely does a grown woman in this position have the maturity to think beyond her own fear and pain. This is a remarkable girl." 

At her request, five months later we met face to face. It was her 15th birthday and she knew we were moving soon to Asia.

From the beginning our communication was annual, an agreement through the adoption agency. Each year on his birthday, we sent a letter to the agency. They would let her know about her child's life and development. 

When a Tsunami hit South East Asia in 2004, the family figured out a way to directly get in touch with my parents. Baby Momma needed to find out if we'd been affected by the disaster and if her son was safe. Since then our connection became direct, but not regular. 

Over these twenty-one years we have known her at a distance. She has been living in Northern California and our family in Asia. Occasionally, we were back to visit family and friends in the Los Angeles area. 

We had a 2007 face-to-face meeting at Chuck E Cheese. Our then, fifth grader's #1 request for our time visiting California. 

We've been friends on Facebook. 

Sent Christmas Cards. 

We stayed in touch mostly with her half sister. She lived in the LA area. She is a tough young woman of faith who has had enormous health and personal challenges. She has a great support system in her local church. My son grew up admiring her. She would sometimes share with us some of the trauma his birth-mother has faced; her struggles trying to get life on the right track. 

For 10 years she was drug free, until she began having disturbing flashbacks. She didn't know what was happening. She thought she was losing her mind. Forgotten childhood memories were remembered: The alcoholism and abuse at home, Being gang raped and left for dead in 2003. 

The flashbacks were so disturbing, and her home environment couldn't provide answers and was not supportive. She turned to the wrong crowd, and drugs, to escape. The group turned to identity theft to get money for drugs.

This young woman says that her arrest last year saved her life. 

Through her recent rehab and counseling, she's learned about PTSD. She has begun to understand herself, and her mind, and how to cope. 

She had a Christian roommate while in a State-sponsored rehab program last year. Her Christian faith has deepened. One night on her bed, she heard someone lovingly speak her name. The roommate was sleeping. She sensed it was Jesus, and she had a deep sense of peace come over her. This encounter made her confident and secure that he was with her no matter what the future holds.

During the time she was in rehab, she had a support system from a distance. Her half sister and niece called regularly. They got her on a bus to LA as soon as she was released. On the way down south, she sat next to a drug addict who was strung out and picking at her skin. "By the grace of God, this could have been me," she realized as she watched her and was thankful for a fresh start.

Since July, healthy routines living with the half-sister have given her grounding. She has had continued counseling, a loving family environment, and regular employment. She is thriving. 

I had the girls to my home for dinner last week and am so amazed by her transparency, humility and gratitude. She has new confidence and openness. She has a genuine softness despite all of the hard things that have happened to her and the things that she has done. 

She knows she deserves punishment for her foolishness in choosing bad company, and joining them in their crimes and illegal drug use. Of course, her hope is to not spend time in the harsh environment of prison, but she has peace that the right decision will be made.  

We will be support to her no matter what.